How To Turn Jealousy Into Your Winning Edge

Jealousy can be a powerful emotion, but rather than letting it consume us, it often serves as a signal that we need to improve ourselves. In a recent experience on the golf course, I found myself surrounded by skilled players, leading me to reflect on the role of jealousy and how it can be a catalyst for personal growth.

A few weeks ago, in Montgomery, Alabama, I played 63 holes over two rainy days. The catch? I was competing against a group of highly talented golfers, with over half of them boasting handicaps under five. By the end of the first day’s 36 holes, I found myself envious of their skills, and my inner child was tempted to throw in the towel.

Instead of succumbing to envy, I realized I had a choice to make. I could either accept my current skill level and continue being outplayed, or I could invest the time and money necessary to improve. This epiphany led me to a realization: jealousy is a sign that we need to get better.

Comparing yourself to others, especially in a similar professional field, often triggers envy. However, it’s essential to recognize that the only factors separating one’s level of success from others are time and money. The individuals I was competing against had invested more time playing golf, acquired better equipment, and sought professional instruction – actions that significantly contributed to their superior skill.

The crux of the matter is acknowledging that success is within reach for anyone willing to invest time and money. Whether you’re in sales, insurance, or athletics, don’t allow envy to foster excuses. Instead, look inward and determine where you can allocate more resources to enhance your skills.

Perhaps it’s hiring a coach, dedicating more time to practice, or upgrading your tools and resources – the key is recognizing that success demands a commitment of both time and money. My own revelation after those 63 holes of golf motivated me to pledge to invest in the instruction and practice needed to compete at a higher level next time.

Jealousy need not be a roadblock to success; rather, it should serve as a compass pointing us toward areas where we can improve. By acknowledging that the only things separating us from our more successful counterparts are time and money, we empower ourselves to take control of our destinies. So, the next time envy creeps in, don’t pout or make excuses – instead, make a commitment to invest in yourself and strive for the success you desire.




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